I think I have come up with a way to think about parenthood in a way that seems to make more sense in this world where career is everything. Being a parent is just like being a personal assistant to a very picky sometimes rude and obnoxious celebrity. When you think of it that way, you somehow can look at all those miles you put on the car just driving in circles so she can sleep, and all of the trips to Barnes and Noble, and Whole Foods just for something to do, and all the cleaning up after her as your house falls apart around you, and everything you do just because she wants you to, it doesn't seem to be that ridiculous. Every parenting book makes you think that if you toddler isn't napping for x amount of hours and eating x amount of meals, and if aren't in control of your own life, then your have failed. Well, if your client wasn't a 19 month old but, say Julia Roberts, people would say, you better just do what she wants or you are going to loose your job. Well, our kids can't fire us (although in some cases they should be able to), but we should live like they could and treat them better than any client or boss we could have. After all, unlike mean or fussy bosses/clients, they are actually doing what they should, being babies. And to make you feel better about the big salary you could be getting as a personal assistant, for the same work you do every day, just remember that bank of love you have is growing bigger and bigger each time you let you child be just who she was born to be.